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Navigating Co-Parenting Challenges: | Wollens Solicitors Devon

A Family Lawyer’s Perspective

By Family Law specialist Helen Handley.

As a family solicitor, I am often approached by parents who are struggling to co-parent with their ex-partner. These conversations are rarely easy. They are filled with frustration, sadness, and sometimes anger — emotions that are entirely understandable when the wellbeing of children is at stake.

Co-parenting after separation or divorce is one of the most emotionally complex aspects of family law. While the legal framework provides guidance on custody arrangements and parental responsibilities, it cannot legislate empathy, communication, or trust — the very qualities that make co-parenting successful.

Common Challenges

Parents frequently tell me they feel undermined, excluded, or criticised by their co-parent. Others struggle with inconsistent routines, conflicting parenting styles, or a lack of cooperation around school, health, and extracurricular activities. These issues can quickly escalate, creating a toxic environment that affects not only the adults but also the children caught in the middle.

What Children Need

Children thrive when they feel safe, loved, and supported by both parents. They benefit from consistency, clear boundaries, and the reassurance that their parents are working together — even if they live apart. When co-parenting is fraught with conflict, children may experience anxiety, behavioural issues, or divided loyalties.

Practical Advice

Here are a few principles I often share with clients:

Focus on the child’s best interests: Ask yourself, “Is this decision helping my child feel secure and supported?”
Communicate respectfully: Use neutral language, avoid blame, and keep discussions child-focused.
Be consistent: Children benefit from routine. Try to align rules and expectations across both households.
Respect boundaries: Your ex is no longer your partner, but they are still your child’s parent.
Seek support: Mediation, counselling, or parenting courses can help improve communication and reduce conflict.

The Limits of the Law

While the law can provide structure through parenting plans and court orders, it has its limits. And as a therapeutically minded family practitioner, I often find those limits frustrating.

There are times when it’s clear that what’s truly needed is behavioural change — from one or both parents. Sometimes the root of the conflict lies in unresolved trauma, a troubled childhood, or the lingering pain of parental divorce. In other cases, it’s simply the inability of one parent to forgive and move on from the relationship breakdown.

In these moments, I find myself wishing we could pull together a multi-functional team — therapists, social workers, mediators, and educators — to work holistically with the family. I believe this kind of integrated support would lead to fewer court proceedings and better outcomes for children and parents alike.

But the reality is that the law is often the most accessible tool for angry or hurt parents who don’t know where else to turn. And while I can offer legal advice, I am sometimes left feeling a bit helpless — knowing that the law simply isn’t the right tool for the job.

Final Thoughts

Co-parenting is a journey, not a destination. It requires patience, compromise, and a willingness to put the child’s needs above personal grievances. As a solicitor, my role is not only to advise on legal matters but also to help parents find a path forward — one that fosters stability, respect, and hope for their children’s future.